What’s underneath the blame, judgment, and defensiveness?

There's a place inside all of us that Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron calls our "soft spot." It's the place where our innate ability to love and be loved resides. For so many of us, from such an early age, we have learned to put up walls around this place to protect ourselves from being hurt or to keep out what scares us. Whenever you catch yourself in blame, judgment, or defensiveness you can be sure that this "soft spot" is not accessible. Opening to this love story takes bravery and support, as it is, in so many ways, countercultural. And it’s an ongoing project, as we will get countless opportunities to try it out. Onward.