What did you find down there?
When Patti was a small child and took a tumble, my father-in-law Govie would quickly ask her, "What did you find down there?" It's such a brilliant question for a parent to ask a child, as it introduces the possibility of discovery into a situation that could instead feel only upsetting. Falling down is something that happens to all of us. The important thing is what happens next. Do we allow the upset to be all we recognize, or do we look for what we can learn and how we can grow from the fall?
